The expression, “Good fences make good neighbours" couldn't be more true when it comes to boundary setting. For sustainable relationships, boundaries are key. Some of us are better at setting boundaries than others and sometimes we all face boundary violations. Educating ourselves in how to effectively set boundaries is the secret sauce to peace of mind and a successful relationship. Here I've suggested three excellent books on learning how to set effective boundaries, I hope these are helpful and remember, in any relationship you should:
(a) feel safe;
(b) have your boundaries respected;
(c) be heard and listened to;
(d) feel validated (e) appreciated and valued;
(e) have your 'no' respected;
(f) have your needs met; and
(g) be treated with respect and that means no emotional, physical, mental or verbal abuse.
One for the pragmatist, this book is an
an excellent resource in teaching us why and how to set boundaries and to help us specifically with the challenges we face when it comes to setting and keeping boundaries:
- If I set boundaries, am I still a loving person?
- What are reasonable boundaries?
- How do I manage somebody who is upset with me setting boundaries?
- How do I cope with time, love, energy, or money vampires?
- How do I cope with the guilt or fear of setting boundaries?
A great resource on boundary setting.
Anne Catherine’s book on setting appropriate boundaries is the book you need to read if you’d like to create a safe space from which you can trust again. The effectiveness of our personal and professional relationships and the level of respect we command are dependent on the effectiveness of the boundaries we set.
With 10k+ positive reviews on Amazon, it's a phenomenal resource on boundary setting, having the courage to be vulnerable and putting ourselves first. A wonderful book on building stronger, more meaningful relationships and setting boundaries to empower you, rather than leave you overwhelmed with guilt. A book I wish everyone would read.
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