Adopted or not, the books prescribed here offer insight, solace and comfort for the losses we have faced and the new relationships that we have formed.
Nicknamed 'The Adoptees' Bible' , The Primal Wound provides beautiful insight into the foster parent-adoptee relationship and the profound impact a child's separation from their birth mother can have on these relationships. The adopted child yearns for their birth mother on a psychological, physical and physiological level. A traumatic experience, this primal wound is often misunderstood or overlooked. This book is revolutionary in that it truly acknowledges and validates the adoptee's pain and feelings of loss. It also provides rationale for their behaviour to the parents who are adopting them and how to support and guide them through this loss and promote healing. Lastly it also discusses the loss a birth mother feels, helping them find solace.
A book that explores the universal question of identity, family and home and will resonate with most of us on many, different levels.
Beautifully narrated the memoir's central characters, Jane Jeong Trenka and her sister Carol (both Korean) are adopted by a white couple Frederik and Margaret Bauer in Harlow, Minnesota. They were raised as American children with American values, however the absence of a past continued to haunt them and eventually they connected with their mother and 4 other siblings in Korea. The differences in skin colour to their adopted parents, to the unspoken truths about adoption, Jane vividly and bravely articulates the the transracial adoptee's experience, the questions about identity, the painful loss of one's own birth mother, their siblings, the loss of an identity and culture. This book is a must-read for any adoptee or anyone considering adoption.
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